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This isn’t a method.

It’s a return to honesty.

Something in you always knew it didn’t feel right.
The bit. The pressure. The pushing through resistance.
Or—when not using force—being told to “motivate” with treats.

You were taught to reward obedience.
To correct resistance.
To believe that if your horse wasn’t cooperating, something needed fixing.

But what if your horse was never confused?
What if they’ve been communicating all along—
and no one ever taught you how to hear them?

The Horse, The Human, The Truth

A 6-part docuseries about coercion, compliance—and the quiet cost we’ve normalized.

What we call “training” is often just coercion—repackaged with softer language.
What we call “respect” is too often just submission in disguise.
And what we call “leadership”… often leaves no room for the horse’s truth at all.

If you’ve ever felt uneasy—even in the most “gentle” approaches—this series will help you name why.

You’ll hear from veterinarians, horse professionals, psychologists, and everyday humans
who believed they were doing the right thing—until their horse showed them otherwise.

You’ll see how normalized practices disconnect horses from themselves.
And you’ll discover what becomes possible when we stop leading with agenda—and start listening with integrity.

🟡 Now streaming worldwide on Vimeo On Demand:

6-Part Docuseries - WATCH NOW

💬 What Viewers Are Saying

“An extraordinary, deep, open and thought-provoking docuseries. It contains invaluable honesty—not just for the equestrian world, but for all of humanity. This bare ‘wake-up’ reflection on how we treat the vulnerable beings we claim to love is so needed. BUT—are people big enough to drop their egos?”
— Helen

“The truth is compelling. The horses are finally seen—and heard.”
— Astrid

“A major breakthrough in the field. Beautifully documented, a unique and important film series.”
— Alison

🐴 LEARN TO SPEAK HORSE

A 12-week journey for people ready to stop managing their horse — and start truly meeting them.

This isn’t about fixing your horse.
It’s about discovering who they really are — beneath the conditioning, the compliance, and the behaviours we were taught to control.

Many people come thinking they already have a bond.
But partway through, they say the same thing:

“I didn’t know this kind of connection was possible.”

When you learn to speak your horse’s language, everything changes.
The tension, the guessing, the subtle resistance — they all start to dissolve.
What replaces them is understanding, calm, and a partnership that feels real.

What you’ll start to discover:

  • Why “problem behaviours” aren’t problems at all
    Biting, spooking, freezing, pushing — these aren’t bad habits.
    They’re messages. We’ll help you understand what your horse is really expressing so you can respond with truth, not tactics.

  • How subtle pressure still teaches submission
    Even when we remove force, expectation remains — through rope pressure, clever tactics, or treat-based control.
    It can look kind, but it still silences choice.
    We’ll help you recognise the difference between obedience and true connection.

  • What learned helplessness really looks like
    When a horse’s spirit is diminished, they stop trying to communicate.
    They give up — not because they’re calm, but because they’ve learned their truth won’t be heard.
    We’ll help you notice those moments and rebuild trust before it’s lost.

  • Why performance destroys authenticity
    Performance happens when we stop being who we truly are — and expect our horse to do the same.
    No one is happy in a performing relationship.
    We’ll help you come back to presence, so your horse doesn’t have to pretend either.

  • The Ribbleton Check-In
    This isn’t a technique.
    It’s a way of meeting your horse where they are — emotionally, physically, and energetically.
    It creates a safe, honest space where your horse feels seen, not shaped.
    And from that space, real conversation begins.

The result

This isn’t obedience training.
It’s the beginning of a relationship built on safety, honesty, and choice — the kind every horse and human are searching for.
No tricks. No treats. No pressure needed.
Just genuine, two-way conversation — deep, beautiful, and real.

Watch the video and start your free Week One today →

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Books & Retreats

For those ready to stop performing—and start living aligned.

Paulette’s books are not horse training guides.
They are soul-level invitations to unlearn, to listen differently, and to return to a kind of truth that doesn’t ask for performance—from you or your horse.

Whether you're navigating burnout, ethical tension, or the quiet knowing that something in your life no longer fits, these books offer a way home.
These words reach beyond the horse world.
They speak to those who are listening for a life that feels real—
a life led by inner knowing, not outer roles.
For those walking the path of congruence, rest, and intuitive living, these reflections offer a place to land.

For those who feel called to experience this work in person, Paulette also offers in-person retreats guided by her herd.
These are not training events. They are sacred spaces of presence, where the truth of the horse, the land, and your own body can finally be heard.

Visit PauletteClark.com

What Does It Mean to Live the Horse?

This isn’t about doing less.
It’s about doing differently.

Living the Horse means listening before leading.
It means giving up control in exchange for truth.
It means showing up—not with an agenda, but with presence.

It’s not a technique.
It’s not a training style.
It’s a shift in how we see horses—and ourselves.

This is for people who are ready to stop performing,
and start relating.

Read more about our philosophy

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“When the pressure stops, the conversation begins.”
Š Paulette Clark | LivingTheHorse.com | PauletteClark.com